My Precious Pearl
Close your eyes.
Now visualize someone that you hold very dear to your heart. Maybe it’s your mother, father, husband, wife. Maybe it’s a coworker, maybe it’s your daughter, son, brother or sister. Now visualize a time when you didn’t value your relationship with this person as much as you could have. Maybe you didn’t listen to your wife’s detailed explanation about work when she got home. Maybe you refused to help your daughter with her homework because you were “too busy” or “too tired”. Maybe you got snappy with a coworker for asking you a simple question.
Imagine how much of a difference it would have made if you simply applied ONE Dale Carnegie principle to that situation? “Don’t criticize, condemn or complain” or “Be a good listener”. We can think all day long that these step by step principles are common sense, but in reality, you can be knowledgeable about what you need to do and not go through with it. Common sense isn’t common practice. Once we put these principles into action and actually begin to relate them to our personal lives and professional lives, that’s when we notice the benefit of the seed we planted. Think of them as sunflower seeds; with a rare Dale Carnegie flavor!
This past week I made up Session four, which was a very interesting session. Throughout this session, we were asked to make commitments in our personal and or professional lives to where we are going to or have already applied some of the principles and how this is going to impact our vision statement. Back in either session one or two, we were required to come up with a “precious pearl”, someone we are striving to improve a relationship with over the time span of the course.
This required us to actually share our ideas with other people… which the idea of that, in ITSELF, made me so nervous. What if they think my ideas aren’t good? What if they think I’m too vulnerable? What if they pass judgement?
When you live life thinking in “what if” compartments, you are bound to create unnecessary worry for yourself and for those around you. It took a lot in me to strive to find some level of comfort in sharing my commitments with one other person, but I did it. And man did it feel good.
I learned many things from this session and I expanded outside of my comfort zone by sharing my commitments with other people. As I progress more and more throughout the course, I am learning so much more about myself as an individual, and how much control I have over my circumstances.
Next week I will blog about the challenges I faced during Session five, followed by an energetic experience during session six! Stayed tuned!
“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People
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