There are a lot of us that get stressed out every day over some of the smallest worries. Things that never seem to matter much to others keep us constantly on edge to the point that we forget how to enjoy our day. It is at this point that we should stop and retrain ourselves to a different way of thinking. We should ask ourselves some questions and contemplate our answers carefully in order to make a mental change that will improve our outlook on life and enjoy each day to its fullest.
Write down your answers to these questions, and review them as we discuss what to do about them:
- Do you worry more about what is in the future than you do about what is presently around you? It is in our nature to wonder what is ahead of us, but some of us take this concern to a higher level that does not let us enjoy our present day lives. Planning for your retirement or a much needed vacation is not the type of worry that is being discussed here. It is that feeling of impending doom that some people develop over worry about job status or whether the world will end in ten years. But what you have to train your mind to do is to stay in the present. It is your actions and reactions that you experience today that will create your tomorrow.
- Do you dwell on past events, regrets, and emotions, letting them rule my days? Life would not be pleasurable if we did not have memories, but when you let the negative ones filter into your present life they impact how you react to different situations. The past is the past, and there is nothing you can do to change those events. You must retrain your mind to let go of things you cannot change and move forward in your life.
- Do you think rationally on the current events in your life, taking the steps to solve situations that cause you worry? Every day brings new challenges that must be met, and it is all in how you react to a situation that will make a difference in your attitude. First determine the worst that can happen, and be prepared for it. Next, determine the optimal outcome of the situation, and map out the steps in your mind to get to that point. By taking these steps, more often than not you will find the optimal solution and avoid all of that unnecessary worry.
In all of the situations that come about in our lives, it is important to know that there will be circumstances that we cannot control. Take the necessary steps to solve your problems, and always do the very best you can.
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