In this society, with the temptation to constantly debate, excessive criticism, mindless arguing, and negativity, it can be hard to stay positive and push past it all. No one likes their reputation to be walked all over or be put in their place when they are wrong. Sometimes, as you probably know, you meet those kinds of people that can never be wrong and usually it’s best just to walk away. Dale Carnegie says we need to “be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” Here are some ways to push past the negativity, even when you think you can’t.
Let irritating people pass by without getting irritated. On a daily basis, you probably get cutoff while driving to the store, get cutoff in the cereal aisle at the store, get cutoff getting in line to pay…getting the picture? It can be hard to hold back your hostility to those who do you wrong. But, what are you going to about it? Stooping to their level and giving them the same treatment is not being the bigger person. Realize what’s important in your day and focus on that. Nine times out of ten what’s important is not the idiot who cut you off!
Praise others without expecting any in return. You need to realize that the most compassionate and kind people are those that give attention, compliments, favors, etc. without expecting anything back. This is because they are forever the bigger person. To be one of these people, you need to realize that receiving something for your good deeds isn’t always going to happen and that is OK. Boost your karma by doing good to others and warm others’ hearts.
Walk away from disagreements and conflicts. To be the bigger person, the best thing you can do when faced with a negative, hostile environment is to walk away. This can be hard when it is our human nature to make sure we are right but it’s not always the best way. Walking away doesn’t mean you are weak or scared, it just means that the negative situation isn’t worth your time or energy. So if you feel like what you’re getting into is getting a little out of hand, be the bigger person and walk away.
Most importantly, agree to disagree. Every human is wired with different opinions, viewpoints, and feelings towards any and every situation. Realize that you are both right in your own way and agree to disagree. Some things can be fought for hours on with no agreement in sight. Realize the precious time you are wasting by arguing for nothing and that you have more important matters to deal with.
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