Having to physically put on a fake smile when mentally you just aren’t on the save level can be a hard task to fulfill. When you get cut off driving to work, don’t have enough cash at the grocery store, or gas prices went up again, it can be hard to shake the bad feelings for the rest of the day. Yet, to have a successful, good day it is important to move past the bad feelings, even if that means putting on a fake face. Here’s how to regain you compose, and smile, even when you’re angry.
First, turn your negative perspective and thoughts into that of a happy mind. Dale Carnegie once said “if we think happy thoughts, we will be happy.” Take deep breaths and try to completely put the negativity behind you. Think of a happy or funny memory, put on your favorite song, rehearse an uplifting quote, anything that will help you calm down!
Next, realize that anger isn’t always the best option. Spending a lot of time being angry can result in loss opportunities and can breed an environment for negativity in others. Look inside yourself and reflect on what made you angry in the first place. Will it matter tomorrow, in a week, in a few years? Depending on how serious the situation will determine the amount of energy you should put to the feelings.
If you have been upset by another person, learn to forgive and forget. If the situation is more serious, at least forgive since it may be impossible to forget. Remember to breathe and try to think where there negativity resulted from. Were they acting out in anger they acquired from a different situation? Try to see all sides of the situation instead of getting stuck in what you may think is the reason for their anger.
Lastly, cool off. Take a few moments to yourself to meditate, breathe, and get rid of your anger. You can take a walk, listen to music, have a conversation with a friend or family member, and smile. By forcing yourself to smile and think happy thoughts, like Carnegie said, you will become happy.
Living a life in negativity and anger can also physically make you sick. Live a happy life for a healthy one! By taking the time to cool off and reflect on what is making you angry, you will be able to turn your fake smile into one that is more true and honest.
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