It may seem like a nightmare situation to Dale Carnegie graduates — not wanting to lead others. Unfortunately, they are out there in the business world.
The Harvard Business Review discussed this yesterday — the boss that doesn’t provide any direction or guidance. Sometimes they give vague instructions. Or they don’t follow up. Or, they make it uncomfortable to you to approach them.
The story gave an example of someone promoted to lead a small group, who had difficulty bringing coworkers on two sides of an issue to a compromise. The new leader hadn’t developed the skill of influencing others yet.
Why don’t leaders lead? It could be because they want to avoid conflict. Others are new in their role and don’t really see themselves as managers yet.
The story asks the question: Why do people become managers, then?
Most of all, they don’t understand what the role will require of them. They like the status and income that come from rising in a hierarchy. But until they get past whatever is keeping them from a willingness to influence proactively the behavior of others, they won’t be fully effective. Effective managers are sensitive to, and caring of, people — they know that why and how they exert influence matter greatly — but behind everything they do is this fundamental need to shape and change what others do and the thoughts and feelings that drive their actions.
If you aren’t ready to, or aren’t comfortable, leading others, you’ll have difficulty as a boss.
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